Bull Shit

bull shit is the only way I can describe my life right now. It is the only way to sum up what I am going through and how I am feeling. By no means am I feeling sorry for myself or wanting anyone to feel sorry for me, but seriously this is bull shit.

If you don't know what I am talking about-long story short-a coworker was touching me inappropriately. It escalated. I told management. They took my 2 sentence verbal complaint. Talked to him. I worked in a restaurant. From that point on the busboys wouldn't help me. 7 days later (3 working days later) I was once again assigned this bus boy,. He started rubbing up against my chest again and groping me. I broke down in tears but continued working. I made a minor mistake of not getting a receipt signed the 2nd time. And they fired me.
I had a spotless record there. No write ups. I just had my review in the beginning of May which was perfect. No complaints about my job performance. The 4th consecutive perfect review in the 2 years I was there.
Fired.
I do not know if I would have just kept letting this man touch me and not complained, would I still have a job? I think so. Seeing that the manager that fired me was the gropers long time friend that didn't believe me when I said he was touching me. And didn't listen to the other 2 girls that said the same thing happened to them.
Its just bull shit. Bull shit that I did what I was supposed to do, report sexual harassment to management. And look where I am-unemployed. Where is the groper? Working. He never missed a minute of work. I was suspended pending investigation for 5 days.
The only way I can describe it is bull shit.
It amazes me still that my rights were violated and no one did anything. The groper is still there. He is not a legal resident of this country. So not only was he illegally working and residing in the United States, he was illegally violating my human rights. How the hell does that happen? How is that allowed?
What the hell am I missing?
The good news is that the EEOC has filed charges against my former employer. They are on my side for right now and believe me.
The bad news. I'm unemployed with 3 kids, a dog, husband who luckily is working, no savings, no money.
I have been looking for a job but haven't found one yet. If I am entitled to unemployment I cant go back to school which was in the plans because you cant go to school and receive unemployment. Bull Shit.
All of my plans gone or at least delayed. My money, gone. My job, gone.
And what I have learned through all of this? if you are a woman at work and someone touches your breasts and/or your butt. Just deal with it. Don't stand up for yourself or your rights.
No I don't mean that. Let me rephrase........Absolutely stand up for yourself. Go through all proper channels to stand up for yourself. But before you stand up, be prepared for everything around you to fall. It may not happen that way, but be prepared.
If someone told me that this is where I would find myself after complaining about sexually harassment, I am not sure if I would do it again. Because this whole thing is bull shit.